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Post by akanundrum on Aug 26, 2015 5:21:01 GMT -8
Social media will probably be the catalyst for many new couplings and marriages but it'll probably also be the reason half of them end.
For most of us it came out of no where! There were no rules of conduct and to be honest, many spouses didn't take online interaction seriously until it was too late.
Now that we've all gotten our beaks wet and we KNOW real situations develop from online activity....what parameters have you implemented into your relationship regarding behavior on social media?
Are certain emojis off limit; no heart eyes, no kissy lips, no wet splashes.
Do you require a good morning text before the person logs on?
Do you allow flirting under Bae's pictures?
What is acceptable and what's not?
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muney
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Relationship: Single Not Looking
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Post by muney on Aug 26, 2015 6:50:44 GMT -8
social networks are where we let our egos and insecurity show .
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alikakaluwa
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Most beautiful forgotten one
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Relationship: Single Searching
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Post by alikakaluwa on Aug 26, 2015 15:09:51 GMT -8
I haven't been in a relationship in some time, I think my last boyfriend was on Facebook but not Instagram or Snapchat. He had a problem with men writing on my wall which in retrospect I understand. I have a homeboy who is in a relationship and refuses to "friend/follow" his girl. He doesn't do any flirting, but I don't know if I would be ok with that. Social media has became such an important part of life (whether that's a good or bad thing). I guess it comes down to trust. I take relationships serious so if boo wanted access to my page, he could have it. If some guy was flirting too much or saying inappropriate things and boo wanted him deleted, I would do it. Social media should not make or break a relationship, but it seems to be doing just that...if you let it!
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Post by OfficialMelaninMonro3 on Aug 26, 2015 17:19:35 GMT -8
My relationship began years ago on social media when Twitter first launched. Throughout the years, there have been SEVERAL occasions where I have had to step in and put a halt to certain things. From homegirls that didn't know their place to his best friend (a girl) feeling some kinda way about something that I posted to MY page to stalker exes making fake pages... Ive dealt with a lot including inappropriate pics/msgs being sent. In the end, I sat and had a no holds barred conversation with my Fiancé. I took the kids, the years spent together, the house & cars, the bank accounts, what our friends & families would think- EVERYTHING BUT HE & I- out of the decision and told him to decide what was best for HIM! If he wanted to be single and do whatever he felt he needed to do then I would not fight him. I'd walk away. If he wanted me then there were things that we needed to discuss, boundaries we needed to set and never cross in order for that to happen. See as much as I love my King, I love ME even more and I refuse to allow his happiness to make me miserable. Needless to say, we just celebrated 5 years at the beginning of this month.
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Post by Dr. Elle on Aug 26, 2015 21:17:01 GMT -8
Lets just face it... Social media an be a slippery slope for even the strongest of relationships. I personally think that a couple has to agree to what their level of comfort is as far as interacting with the opposite sex on social media. It might be a bit much to not "friend or follow" your significant other. I think its a good idea to allow access to your account to your significant other...that is if you have nothing to hide.
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xolatheegodd
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Good Morning Gods and Goddesses :)
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Relationship: Single Searching
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Post by xolatheegodd on Aug 27, 2015 5:53:32 GMT -8
Honestly I feel people take social media to seriously... we should stop letting it determine our relationships... if you want to be on facebook, instagram or snapchat before you text me Good Morning that's just what you want to do lol why trip over something so little.. -StayInPeace
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Post by amirinyahya on Aug 27, 2015 7:38:09 GMT -8
Be blameless, have nothing to hide...
My wife knows all my passwords...
I read in a previous comment about social media being an area where ego show out. Social Media can create lustful thinking or ideas deep down from both male and female. This is why we get jealous or angry when our significant others are posting, liking, and/or commenting on post/pics. We put our own insecurities in the middle and In a lot of cases that's the real problem... NOT justifying it!
And just like another previous comment... Keep the the lines of communication open on how you can engage on social media while in a relationship. My wife and I use social media for business purposes ONLY!
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Post by etnupe on Aug 27, 2015 8:03:12 GMT -8
I don't "like" or comment on other women's pictures. Most women post pics for attention, but I refuse to give it to them. I just use social media to follow news, events and network.
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Post by UncommonCourtesy on Aug 28, 2015 23:02:02 GMT -8
Honestly I feel people take social media to seriously... we should stop letting it determine our relationships... if you want to be on facebook, instagram or snapchat before you text me Good Morning that's just what you want to do lol why trip over something so little.. -StayInPeace
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Post by awakewhileusleep on Aug 28, 2015 23:20:19 GMT -8
social media can definitely put a strain on a relationship if insecurities are present, boundaries are a must unless there is equal understanding about the activity that is taking place. open communication is paramount.. once you start hiding things, that can be the beginning of the end. they say its a thin line between love and hate.. but i feel its an even thinner line when it comes down to trust.
that video was hilarious btw 
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Post by sauceking on Aug 30, 2015 19:09:51 GMT -8
We come across attractive people all the time. The thing is to maintain some self control and respect for your significant other. People associate the smallest things with cheating. If you press the like button on an attractive person's picture or status, nowadays it means you wanna smash or already did. It's ridiculous. People need to log outta the fairy tale and get in tune with reality.
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Post by justpeachy on Aug 30, 2015 20:28:54 GMT -8
I feel if people were more mindful of appearing or acting thirsty while in a relationship, the less problems you may have.It's like the look but don't touch/like too much policy. I can admire from afar without making a public spectacle about it.My likes are more geared towards tangible things, the thought process or situations, comments & things that are funny anyway.
There's always the celebrity crushes etc, but when it's within your circle of friends it can appear questionable because you have access to those people.
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