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Post by thedonleeboy on Aug 27, 2015 17:47:20 GMT -8
You introduce yourself to "today's beautiful woman" Very quickly, she informs you that she's married. What's your next move? Try and become an honest friend, or respectfully back off. Can you be just friends with a beautiful woman that is married? (opportunities present itself) Is being an honest friend disrespectful to her husband?
Tables turned. Your wife is approached by another man. He's actually not bad looking. In shape, successful, potentially has even more success than you. If he speaks to her about being an honest friend, would you get mad if she accepted? Is she able to accept his friendship? Should he at any time speak to you? What if she never told you of this friendship? ( nothing more than friendship happens) Should she avoid making friendships with all men after marrying you?
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Post by rayjefury on Sept 30, 2015 10:42:06 GMT -8
thedonleeboyNot sure why this topic never got any replies. Here's the rule that I think generally helps avoid trouble. Her friends are your friends, and your friends are her friends... especially the ones of the opposite sex. The transparency and visibility helps to eliminate a lot of questions and the lack thereof just invites questions. If she's just a friend, why don't I know about her? If he's just a friend how come you've never introduced me to him? I think it's fine to have friends... just not secret friends who are really "In Case of Emergency Break Glass" booty calls (or people who we want to smash). Better to have all those relationships out in the sunlight where everyone can see them
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Post by thedonleeboy on Oct 2, 2015 14:19:28 GMT -8
thanks for the response. I agree with what you said. I do see a lot of silly restrictions going on from time to time, like a woman having guy friends and then getting upset when her man starts to get some female friends. And vice versa. I don't agree with that logic, and if thats the case, then maybe that couple is not ready for a relationship due to the lack of trust and mix matched/uneven set of rules.
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Post by amirinyahya on Oct 5, 2015 9:20:58 GMT -8
If men approach me, I say I'm married and they leave it alone. I'm really not interested in male friends - just to avoid any foolishness - unless it's based on business. Same for Hubz. Friends we had before marriage are mutual friends now or we've outgrown them. In marriage, we always make sure we're doing what's best for the marriage because at the end of the day you're not going home and spending your life with those friends. Keep peace where you lay your head and everything else will work itself out.
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