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Post by amirinyahya on Sept 2, 2015 10:00:23 GMT -8
Everyone says we should treat our men like kings
who can argue with that?
I mean, society has been treating them like trash for so long
it's almost our DUTY to help them elevate.
but we've all been in that relationship where you treat him like a king
and he skates out for the one who talks to him like a dog....
OR
you treat him like a king with no commitment for so long
that it becomes a "why buy the cow...?" situation.
So what are the limits of your pampering your man?
Do you wait for the ring before the "husband benefits" commence?
And if so, how do you keep things loving and GROWING in the meantime?
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MrsGmia
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Post by MrsGmia on Sept 2, 2015 16:38:54 GMT -8
Women have to treat themselves as KINGS first. We have to put ourselves first, build ourselves up, make ourselves better for ourselves. When a man sees that you can love you, and sees HOW you love you, he will know how to love you. When you learn how to treat yourself as a KING, treating him as your equal will be second nature. Treating a man like a KING does not mean doting on him, waiting on him hand and foot. It means being there for him, being someone he can count on, someone he can be proud of. Always remember that men are hunters; they get bored if they are not chasing. Men are sensitive; they don't want their feelings hurt and don't want to be the cause of your hurt feelings. Men are simple: reward good behavior and do NOT give bad behavior attention (positive or negative); they want to be appreciated and rewarded in their pants and then the belly. If a man hasn't brought up marriage and commitment by your deadline, move on. Until then, treat yourselveS like KINGS.
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Post by misterbeneficial on Sept 2, 2015 20:19:38 GMT -8
It depends on the man. 1st I believe a woman should learn her mate. He might be a traditional man and believe in roles. He might be a physical type of man. He needs attention(back rubs, kisses, touching).He might be an emotional man. He needs you to stroke his ego. So on and so forth....
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Post by darlingnikkih on Sept 5, 2015 8:48:13 GMT -8
I think it depends on the man and the situation. We should all be loving and nurturing to our men and treating them as Kings becuase they deserve it. If they don't then they don't deserve us as Queens. With that being said, we should know when enough is enough. Everyone has trials and tribulations in a relationship but it is hardest to accept when you are putting in more than you will ever get out. Be honest with yourself.
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apple1023
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Post by apple1023 on Sept 5, 2015 9:02:29 GMT -8
I think this all depends on the goal of the relationship. Some people want different things at different stages in their life and in their relationships.
Depending on the honest conversation you have with your partner, and the honest conversation that you have with yourself, you can then decide what to do next. If both partners are on the same page and consistently check in with each other and remain connected and intune, then shit the stars are the limit and there would be no insecurity about rings and stuff because he will only look at you, his queen and she would only look at her king. If the connection is past titles and insecurity and your souls are truely connected, you will already be his wife and partner and he will already be ur husband and partner and the proposal and ring is urs.
If (s)he doesnt appreciate you, and you can't connect with them about it then take your godly-self out of their presence because they aren't clearly seeing your beauty and admiring you as they should.
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dopenartistic
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Peace to the Beautiful Hearts and Minds <3
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Post by dopenartistic on Sept 5, 2015 9:23:25 GMT -8
I believe you have to use your spirit of discernment. When we meet a man we know within no time whether or not we are in preparation to waste our time. We may choose to ignore those signs, but honestly we know before the end all be all actually happens. If your souls tie then why think about "husband treatment"? Give that man all that he deserves knowing that when you release it you are doing because you want to. I was taught that when give love give love because you want to and not because you are expecting it in return. And if it doesn't work out walk away knowing that YOU DID YOUR BEST AS A WOMAN. But one thing both men and women need to master before getting into a relationship or attempting to pursue a relationship is exercising the theory of self-actualization and consistently exercising self-reflection, so when we deal with others we remain grounded in self.
-Peace
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Post by Deleted on Sept 6, 2015 20:52:22 GMT -8
Definitely don't treat him like a king for so long that it puts you in a position where you don't get what you deserve as a woman.
Reserve king benefits for someone who has committed to making you his queen and doing what it takes to maintain you and add to your life (shelter, food, love, marriage).
Clarity of expectations and gender roles from the beginning (and sticking to it), with the end of marriage in mind, will set the tone of requirements, expectations and limits...
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