kesco
Male
Searching for my muse
Posts: 121
Relationship: Single Not Looking
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Post by kesco on Sept 12, 2015 13:44:23 GMT -8
In a past relationship, I purchased a set of jade Yoni eggs as a gift for my woman. It was met with a huge arguement about sexual performance and prowess. She felt that I was insulting her by suggesting vaginal strength training. Needless to say I ended up in the dog house. I got out of the dog house when I showed up with books on intimacy, tantric, and a set of male cock rings. I had to explain to her my desire for us to be the best lovers that we could be for each other. The question is...how can you help bring in a higher level of sexuality without your lover feeling deminished? What approach would you take?
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Post by mskenya on Sept 14, 2015 6:30:08 GMT -8
This is a tough one. I've never been in this situation but I would think if your partner is speaking out of love it would be touchy but necessary. Then I'm thinking true friends can go there with one another, right? Hmmmmmm
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Post by justpeachy on Sept 15, 2015 19:35:50 GMT -8
A talk about toys, libido, & sexual preferences or styles I should say is in order. Some think those things are unnecessary and after intimidated by them. Sone may not match your level of "exploration" or just may be uncomfortable with the conversation. You have to communicate your desires, present & future to show who you are & what you want in your mate.
Suppressed desires can manifest in some unhealthy ways that can destroy the relationship
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Post by ladytee on Sept 15, 2015 19:42:11 GMT -8
I would take/appreciate a more playful and experimental approach...if my man came to me one morning with a lil smirk on his face holding these yoni eggs and said something like "I got a test for you.." (idk why a weeknd song came to mind) and pulled me into a little foreplay where he inserted it. And told me to hold his seed for a period of time, Ima hold onto it for dear life! cause I know later...im gon get that work! Presentation is key I think...I would feel some type of way if it were just gift wrapped...but to have the experience and excitement of trying it together, in my opinion, makes it less offensive and more fun.
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Post by dgomez on Sept 26, 2015 10:24:12 GMT -8
As women we are natural pleasers. Letting her know before hand that the sex is good (if it is, lol) is good way to start and then having the conversation about where you'd like to go sexually. She might be ok with just being at this sexual level at this time. I agree with justpeachy
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