Post by Anonymous on Nov 24, 2015 18:54:48 GMT -8
It's probably crazy that I'm even seeking the advice of million people that will judge me based off their personal feelings. Now my issue is I have a baby...by a married man. When I met him and fell for him I was unaware he was married but I found out eventually but I found it hard to break it off with him...he told me the typical he was ending thingsI ended up getting pregnant(which I believe for him it was on purpose to keep me around). Now why did I stay? I met his family, friends, we went everywhere together. Fast forward, his wife found out about us while I was pregnant which of course he disappeared for few months. He returned asking to be in my life romantically and our daughters life. The romantic part I declined.I want him to be in his sons life but seems like he prefers to do everything behinds his wife's back, including sneaking around to see his son. This is after he requested we conference all (all 3) stating that any communication between us has to go through her. Yet he insist of doing things behind her back including saying inappropriate things to me. If I allowed it we would still be sleeping together. I have explained to him that unless his wife is fully aware of his involvement I don't want him contacting us. Not interested in continuing the game he wishes to play with his wife. Now my question is it considered keeping dad away from his child or stick to my conditions. I'd rather cut him off completely if he chooses not to be honest with those around him. I refuse for an innocent child to be treated like a secret. Please note his wife and I have never directly spoken as she hates me (rightfully so) and does not wish to speak to me ever. Although she has called me once to threaten me and hang up. He claims he sneaks because she does not want him involved in his sons life(which I guess he agreed to), and because he wants to keep his marriage he'd rather do it behind her back... Should I contact the wife about this or continue to let him lie? Understand when all this happened I've never once contacted her.Child is now 2 btw.
