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Post by akanundrum on Aug 12, 2015 22:55:51 GMT -8
Clearly, this word means something different to everyone 
So my exhusband remarried and please understand - I WAS ECSTATIC!!
Like foreal foreal. I even asked my daughter to bring me some wedding cake.
 Here's the thing, shes Asian and not American born. So I tried to
overlook a lot of her shit - but eventually I had to accept and TREAT
disrespect exactly for what it was - DISRESPECT. Fortunately NOW, it's
better but nah...more often than not, it has been very difficult. I'm
continuing to BE the change/example I want to see. So far so good  |
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Post by Dr. Elle on Aug 18, 2015 14:01:01 GMT -8
As a recently divorced woman I actually cringe at the thought of my children having step mother, however I really do want my X to be happy and whole. I guess I'll just have to pray that she is a good woman and an decent person. I will take your example and "BE the change/example I want to see."
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Post by dinknesh on Aug 26, 2015 14:40:42 GMT -8
My son has 4 younger siblings, two other (mothers) I dislike the baby mother term. I had always had a dislike for his partner until one day my son came home and as I had forgotten to cut his toe nails before his dad had picked him up I called him into his room to do so on his return. They were done, I assumed his dad had done so he corrected me and told me she had. From that day my heart softened towards her, years one her twin boys are only a year younger then my son who's the eldest and we've grown a great deal of respect for each other. Regardless of the issues my ex and I may have at times we always seem to deal with each other cordially. I enjoy the twins company and they show me respect. I know my son ejoys her company and it bothers me not one bit. I'm happy my ex has someone I can feel happy for my son to be with.
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Post by OfficialMelaninMonro3 on Aug 27, 2015 11:46:40 GMT -8
My ex is now married to (get this) a woman that is now one of my closest friends!!! Yep! I talk to her nearly everyday. I have better communication with her than with HIM! She absolutely loves OUR sons and is always there for them just as I am. We make blended families look good lol. I live in Cali and so the boys reside with me now but last year I got REALLY sick (I have Sickle Cell Disease) and I was in ICU for almost 7weeks. My Fiancé was either working or at the hospital by my side and we were heavily relying on friends to help with our kids. I called her and asked if she thought they could help out with the boys for a little while so that I could deal with getting my health in order. She didn't even hesitate to offer to fly out and get them for me. Since it was the end of the school year, she came and got them for the summer. Our boys had a blast being able to spend time with their other family and I was at ease knowing that she would protect them with her life.
I know that Im blessed to be able to get along so well with my children's other set of parents (we don't believe in saying "step" anything). I also realize that this isn't everyone's story. What I will say is that a little effort goes a really long way. Never prohibit your child from having one more person loving them. Let go of whatever preconceived ideas you have or societal stereotypes you have fell into and extend an olive branch. Make sure that YOU do whatever YOU can to try and make the situation amicable for all involved. If it doesn't work, your child (who is ALWAYS watching your every move) will at least know that it was not because YOU were not willing to give it a shot.
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