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Post by akanundrum on Aug 23, 2015 5:54:31 GMT -8
 Are we as millennials truly over the negative stigma of first night sex or is it still problematic for any prospects of a serious relationship? Are there any special circumstances or exceptions that make it ok? |
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Post by 9ethrdchef on Aug 23, 2015 21:03:31 GMT -8
Chemistry has no time limit. If there's a sexual attraction between two consenting adults, sex should be used to enhance the experience between two people, not a tool for gaining a foothold over someone
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Post by awakewhileusleep on Aug 24, 2015 13:29:24 GMT -8
no biggie, but personally i've faced pros and cons on both sides of the coin.. ive had long lasting and short lived relationships from both circumstances. but what i've learned most is that vice waiting and learning more about someone first, a sexual connection off the top usually can distract you and before you know it you find out that you all really had nothing in common.. IMO i think its worse when the flame dies that way
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Post by Nei on Aug 24, 2015 13:53:50 GMT -8
I agree with that^^^^. If the sex is good, we can easily become blind to the red flags toat pop up everywhe else. Although it can be fun for that night, it beco.es a waste of time in the long run.
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Post by borngod on Aug 24, 2015 14:57:34 GMT -8
All depends on how the 2 met. If it is just straight lower nature lust. Don't see it lasting. You giving your self to a man and don't even know the person. Of it is for just sex then it is what it is
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thickyfitt01
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Post by thickyfitt01 on Aug 25, 2015 19:59:51 GMT -8
I think it all depends on the people and what their expectations are. If one person is thinking long term, while the other one is only thinking just to just after that sexual release, then you probably shouldn't be doing anything lol but cause that will be a major issue. Knowing what I know now and because I'm not looking for anything causal, I wouldn't have sex on the first, second,or third date, but that's just me.
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Post by etnupe on Aug 26, 2015 4:06:19 GMT -8
Communication before and after is the Key.
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muney
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Post by muney on Aug 26, 2015 6:45:53 GMT -8
first impressions can never be replaced. i wouldn't want to put the ring on the finger of the first nighter . there isn't any problem waiting while i can think of a million problems with not waiting. thats my own personal view.
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laycee
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Post by laycee on Aug 27, 2015 6:05:06 GMT -8
I believe that if a man truly sees my value in his life, he will wait for this goodness. I want him to excite my mind before he can excite my body.
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Post by acamp403 on Aug 30, 2015 20:44:23 GMT -8
i think it just depends on the people involved and what their lookin for. Because in the past ive had a guy to say he want a relationship and i didnt give him none on the first night and i didnt get a call back, then ive had a guy that i did and we are still cool til this day, so i guess it jus depends on the individual.
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jshabazz18
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Post by jshabazz18 on Sept 27, 2015 11:44:05 GMT -8
It's all about chemistry and energy . I try to pick a persons Brain right away when I'm in front of you I don't do small talk I do an analysis . If we click mentally and the attraction is there TAKE ADVANTAGE OF THE MOMENT . I feel like the universe gives us chances to take if you feel it and it feels right go for it and enjoy it . I've all taille lost respect for or stopped dating people that constantly fight an urge that we both feel especially if we are both busy people or we have waited a while to see each other . There are downfalls to sex on the first night if the other person feels ashamed but other than that take advantage of the moments connections are formed from an outside force so take it to the top and enjoy every moment plus spontaneous sex is the best
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callmemansa83
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Post by callmemansa83 on Sept 29, 2015 17:53:33 GMT -8
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Post by sistaallie on Oct 1, 2015 10:46:31 GMT -8
I don't really think there is a "right" answer to this question. It completely depends on the individual and the situation they are in. Personally, I don't sleep with someone on the first date. I have to establish a deep emotional and spiritual connection with my partner first. For me, having that connection is a huge part of making sex enjoyable.
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brittbrat
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Post by brittbrat on Oct 7, 2015 6:32:42 GMT -8
What is actually considered the 1st night??... The relationships I've had usually start off with meeting & the number exchange... Talking/texting for a week or so & then meeting again. When you're both highly attracted to each other & that tension has been building via late night talks & flirtaous texts... By the time you get an opportunity to go out together.. You're kinda hot & bothered & ready to cave. So sex on the 1st night of meeting-- nah. Sex after the 1st date... If the chemistry is there.. I don't see why not.
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jayscott
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Post by jayscott on Oct 9, 2015 19:13:48 GMT -8
Sure if the chemistry is there.
My younger self was down with this way of thinking. Now that I am older, I'd rather wait. None of it led to anything significant and I just felt emotionally empty afterward. So no, not for me.
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