kesco
Male
Searching for my muse
Posts: 121 
Relationship: Single Not Looking
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Post by kesco on Sept 6, 2015 13:47:51 GMT -8
Where is the line? Is it possible to flirt or court anymore without the negative undertones? How exactly do you as a woman like to be approached and courted?
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Post by freimelanin on Sept 8, 2015 10:27:23 GMT -8
Most women are highly insecure which forces them to think that every hi is a flirt or thirst when it's genuinely a hello how are you today. Most women don't even know how to court or better yet, they don't even know what courting is! Nice romantic walks in the park or a botanical garden to get to know each other while enjoying nature. Simple things! Most women enjoy the thrill that a guy is interested in them and they feel obligated to give sex in exchange. I feel that our women must empower each other in order to create some sense of self and self esteem because most women do things to impress or out do other women. We must inform each other that it isn't a race!
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Post by Nei on Sept 9, 2015 12:45:27 GMT -8
Most women are highly insecure which forces them to think that every hi is a flirt or thirst when it's genuinely a hello how are you today. Most women don't even know how to court or better yet, they don't even know what courting is! Nice romantic walks in the park or a botanical garden to get to know each other while enjoying nature. Simple things! Most women enjoy the thrill that a guy is interested in them and they feel obligated to give sex in exchange. I feel that our women must empower each other in order to create some sense of self and self esteem because most women do things to impress or out do other women. We must inform each other that it isn't a race! Your usage of the words "most" and "highly" are disturbing to me. And so many people throw around the word "insecure" as though it is the answer to every woman who behaves in a manner of which is not beneficial to or approved by them. |
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Post by justpeachy on Sept 15, 2015 18:32:34 GMT -8
As long as a man approaches me with respect & can pay attention to the message (indirect, direct cues) it's all good. I'm not going to be rude even if I'm not interested, As far as courting, find out our similar interests & take it from there. If the lines of communication are open & your doing it effectively,with respect, no need to worry about over doing it or crossing those boundaries.
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hotepheru
Male
Posts: 3
Relationship: Single Searching
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Post by hotepheru on Sept 21, 2015 8:32:14 GMT -8
BLack wombman are the most gorgeous ppl on this earth and black men just want to say hi just to show we as black men love our kweens.Some wombman do think every guy is thirsty. n
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Post by jazznicole on Sept 21, 2015 15:29:27 GMT -8
There is a line between interest & thirst. Example: I had a guy request me on IG. I accepted. We liked a few posts back & forth. He complimented me. I thanked him. He then sent a DM. Cool. I was polite in my responses until he started saying sexually inappropriate stuff. That's when he crossed the line. There is nothing wrong with complimenting someone you are attracted to. Thirst comes in when a person gets disrespectful & derogatory without warrant.
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Post by mskenya on Sept 21, 2015 15:41:56 GMT -8
It is very possible to flirt/court without negative undertones. I like to be approached with respect, humor is a weakness for me lol. I've had bad IG experiences and very good ones. What the good experiences included were:respect, humor,patience, DM's that were straight to the point but smooth. I respond more when a brother isn't too anxious and is careful with his words. I love a thoughtful brother and believe it or not there are ways for him to show these qualities through social media.
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