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Post by amirinyahya on Aug 30, 2015 15:28:35 GMT -8
It goes without saying that the black mother is the strongest link in the chain right now.
Even at the expense of our own health and well being.
Even those of us who -think- we do a good job of taking breaks and taking care can get to the breaking point.
I know I do!
It seems like we have to be strong for -everybody- Corporate america, black america, and our families all depend on us to never break down.
But everybody needs a break sometime...or we will break.
Our tears are silent. Our screams even more so...
According to statistics, we are the MOST stressed out demographic.
How do you feel mama?
Here is a space for us to air out
comfort and build each other....
Because where would they be without us?
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Post by investedmother on Aug 30, 2015 18:33:03 GMT -8
We clearly need to. As with anything you have to learn TRULY what you can and cannot do. I consider myself an "invested" parent because my son is not in cruise control. I have the kind of kid kid that REQUIRES me to provide my undivided attention. And I would say up until he was 5years old I based my life around him BUT at the expense of quality family time. I was once a workaholic, the goto person for everybody, the nurturer, the business handler, the superwoman etc.I was all things for everyone in my life. My relationship suffered. I was stressed to the max but a robot. Then my son started kindergarten and I realized I had it all wrong. My son needed me in a way that required less work in the sense of no more around the clock, weekends are no longer on the menu. This new school routine he was adjusting to DEMANDED my attention. It made me realize I was burning myself out and I hadn't hit 30 yet. And I did not want to impose my frustrations of life on him. So I discovered that taking a break away from family, school, and work to just breathe and sleep unbothered for a full 24 hours was needed to perform at my highest peak. I believe people "SNAP" when they become overwhelmed. Replenishing the mind and resting the body give you a renewed perspective. Just because you've been doing it doesn't mean you're doing it right or you're giving it your best. Something ALWAYS suffers when we over extend ourselves. LOVE YOURSELF 1ST AND GIVE YOURSELF A BREAK. If you don't know how then think of the love you have for your children. Instead of yelling, blowing them off, or becoming bothered with their many demands step away. I guarantee when you reemerge you will have a greater appreciation for your life and role. I proudly am a woman and wear my hats effortlessly but my son gets a better mom these days because I now understand the essence of our time together, his time he needs alone, my time I need alone, and the time we spend with family and friends. BALANCE. TOO MUCH STRESS IN ONE AREA WITH ANYTHING IS NOT GOOD DOES NOT MATTER WHAT IT IS. Take a break mommy?  |
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