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Post by amirinyahya on Aug 30, 2015 15:34:21 GMT -8
I used to call myself damaged goods. I was raised to think that once a girl "became a woman" - even if it was against her will
She was "damaged"
I was told that no man would ever love me or want me....
and even though men came along and TRIED to prove my thinking wrong it was impressed on my subconscious
It took me YEARS to break that thinking
It took me more years to allow myself to be loved.
How do we raise our daughters to value themselves as more than just their "virginity" while still instilling in them how SACRED it actually is?
How do we heal ourselves from years of shame and hurt so that our daughters will be whole? |
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Post by ladytee on Sept 3, 2015 11:25:33 GMT -8
I have an eight year old daughter, she is a beautiful, talented, and intelligent little being I must say. I try to focus and encourage those qualities equally to her. So although she is sure of her beauty, it is not the only source of her confidence. She also knows how talented she is, she knows her strengths and skills. She is eager to learn and has an open mind to the many facets life has to offer, she even meditates and does yoga with me!
I haven't had the talk with her about sex, or her virginity yet. I am not sure when it is appropriate, maybe because I never had that discussion with my parents when I was younger. I know the time may be near as she is getting older and I am allowing her to have a little more social freedom with extra-curricular activities. Is there even a general age this topic should be brought up? I know some kids around her age who are already interested in the opposite sex, and she is going to interact with them at some point or another...school, social events, etc. but she hasn't shown that interest yet (thank goodness) should I wait until she does? Or bring it up sooner?
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Post by justpeachy on Oct 23, 2015 15:12:09 GMT -8
ladytee No topic is never too soon as long as it's age appropriate. I think the best thing a parent can do is open the lines of communication to that very fact. My mother didn't have that talk with me until I was 12 and she was obviously very nervous. The thing was I didn't learn anything from it because I had already researched & starting reading all about it 5 years prior. You never know what kids may know or be thinking of if they think something is taboo or they are not comfortable broaching a subject. Be open, honest & direct with correct terms. We don't want them to get misinformation from someone else, especially their friends. You'd be surprised at what they come to you with when all is at ease. Take the curiosity factor out and they are less apt to experiment when they are informed.
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