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Post by akanundrum on Sept 1, 2015 14:36:40 GMT -8
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paris
Female
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Relationship: Engaged
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Post by paris on Sept 1, 2015 16:58:11 GMT -8
Yay lol. I feel that it should not be a problem unless there is something to hide.
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Post by Nei on Sept 2, 2015 20:57:26 GMT -8
If we're laid up like shown in the pic I may glance that way, but I don't particularly care to go all Inspector Gadget trying to see what he's doing.
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Post by rayjefury on Sept 3, 2015 14:12:19 GMT -8
I guess everyone has to establish what their comfort zone is, understanding that 1 size won't fit all. I know ppl who have joint e-mail and FB accounts based on the premise that there, "shouldn't be anything to hide". I feel this is an extreme and I wouldn't subscribe to it, but if it works for someone else who am I to say it's wrong. It's just wrong for me, just as going thru each other's phones is wrong to me. If it works for others? More power to them
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thickyfitt01
Female
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Relationship: Single Not Looking
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Post by thickyfitt01 on Sept 5, 2015 4:44:11 GMT -8
I think it's OK. I don't know about joint emails though lol. If we don't have anything to hide it's fine and if you are doing something guarantee I'm not going to need your phone to find out, playa!
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Post by fatfredjones on Sept 5, 2015 5:54:06 GMT -8
I strongly dislike the "if there's nothing to hide..." argument. Wouldn't a reasonable counter statement be "if you really trust me, why would you be concerned..."? I say it's more important to recognize what compels us to get a peek at someone's phone. If there's other shady behavior going on then maybe that's why your spidey senses are tingling. It's better to address those concerns before the screen-spy stage. When a mate's phone unexpectedly goes off, it's understandable to glance over; it's almost reactionary. Something makes a sound so we naturally turn to it. This shouldn't be confused with intently reading every message that's transmitted.
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Post by darlingnikkih on Sept 5, 2015 9:07:19 GMT -8
I strongly dislike the "if there's nothing to hide..." argument. Wouldn't a reasonable counter statement be "if you really trust me, why would you be concerned..."? I say it's more important to recognize what compels us to get a peek at someone's phone. I voted nay and completly agree with your statement as quoted. Although,I do feel as though if there is nothing to hide there shouldn't be a problem... In a marriage. I am married and my husband is on my phone constantly. He has every password and full access to everything. He doesn't have a smartphone (breaks them at work lol) and uses mine for pretty much everything so since I have nothing to hide that's fine. But in a relationship outside of marriage I can possibly see the need for "privacy". But that shouldn't mean a hands off my phone policy. Most people with nothing to hide wouldn't have an issue unless they felt like they were being accused of something and in turn get defensive. I think if someone feels some type of way a discussion should ensue far before snooping. |
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Post by awakewhileusleep on Sept 7, 2015 18:04:11 GMT -8
I strongly dislike the "if there's nothing to hide..." argument. Wouldn't a reasonable counter statement be "if you really trust me, why would you be concerned..."? I say it's more important to recognize what compels us to get a peek at someone's phone. If there's other shady behavior going on then maybe that's why your spidey senses are tingling. It's better to address those concerns before the screen-spy stage. When a mate's phone unexpectedly goes off, it's understandable to glance over; it's almost reactionary. Something makes a sound so we naturally turn to it. This shouldn't be confused with intently reading every message that's transmitted.  |
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Post by briitski on Sept 15, 2015 16:52:00 GMT -8
Why do our phones have such an impact on us and our relationships? We are so consumed by technology... I personally want a relationship where this doesn't even have to be a question. Where whatever is in my or my partner's phone (if we even have phones) doesn't even matter. If true love is present in my relationship I won't need outside distractions and entertainment.
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kesco
Male
Searching for my muse
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Relationship: Single Not Looking
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Post by kesco on Sept 15, 2015 21:14:12 GMT -8
Nay. If I feel that I have to be checking your phone then its time to move on.
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Post by amirinyahya on Sept 15, 2015 22:50:56 GMT -8
It really depends on the couple. Our phones are interchangeable but some people prefer their space. My thing is- if I can trust you with my BODY, I can trust you with my phone. If you don't feel like you can share your phone or what's in it (a piece of metal and plastic) with me, why should I trust my body, heart and spirit with you?
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