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Post by trueexperience on Sept 26, 2015 6:44:23 GMT -8
I say in terms of what is good or bad sex speaks about what is one's expectations. It's a process to learning your partner. And part of it is communicating with your partner. Discuss with each other before hand and what ways does your partner like to be pleased. How do they like to be touched? What methods of foreplay do they like to use? Are they in to giving and receiving oral sex etc? And communication is not simply verbal, it's physical, emotional, mental as well. Of course to get to that point you have to work to get to know a person. I think what happens often is that couples are having sex too quick. I'm not judging if you are into the moment and want to just having a casual sexual encounter that's in the realm of your free will. But I'm saying if we are really talking about two people being in a relationship/dating/courting then take the time to understand one another. Sometimes sexual encounters are too tight as someone mentioned about the ego. "I'm gonna do this. I'm gonna show her I'm the best. Or he can't handle this...etc". Sex is an expression it should be fun. It's not a competition. When you are just as concerned with making your partner feel good and having an orgasm/climax that's what creates an experience that is "good sex". It's all based on connection. I would even say use some astrology. Explore the body parts in which that person's sign rules. Those are erogenous zones. Aries/Head, face- any attention towards the forehead or even stroking the hair. Taurus-neck. Gemini-hands and arms. Cancer-breasts/chest. Leo-back. Virgo-stomach. Libra-small of the back, buttocks. Scorpio-genitals or you can just bring up sex and they'll be down lol. Sagittarius-thighs and hips. Capricorn- Knees. Aquarius-ankles. Pisces-feet, and yes play with those toes massage those feet with them. But that's just my take.
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Post by awakewhileusleep on Oct 29, 2015 8:14:47 GMT -8
For clarification when I say "clumsy" I mean sex that feels like something from a first time high school experience lol. When he thinks he's gittin it but you've had better transvaginal ultrasounds. When he's fondling you and he's no where near the money spot. Oh lawd, or someone who asks you if you came yet after like 5 mins of weak ass work. Boyyy bye! On 2nd thought, never mind I'm not workin with clumsy either lol. ladyteelmaooo |
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Post by 86too4ever on Dec 7, 2015 10:52:24 GMT -8
I say in terms of what is good or bad sex speaks about what is one's expectations. It's a process to learning your partner. And part of it is communicating with your partner. Discuss with each other before hand and what ways does your partner like to be pleased. How do they like to be touched? What methods of foreplay do they like to use? Are they in to giving and receiving oral sex etc? And communication is not simply verbal, it's physical, emotional, mental as well. Of course to get to that point you have to work to get to know a person. I think what happens often is that couples are having sex too quick. I'm not judging if you are into the moment and want to just having a casual sexual encounter that's in the realm of your free will. But I'm saying if we are really talking about two people being in a relationship/dating/courting then take the time to understand one another. Sometimes sexual encounters are too tight as someone mentioned about the ego. "I'm gonna do this. I'm gonna show her I'm the best. Or he can't handle this...etc". Sex is an expression it should be fun. It's not a competition. When you are just as concerned with making your partner feel good and having an orgasm/climax that's what creates an experience that is "good sex". It's all based on connection. I would even say use some astrology. Explore the body parts in which that person's sign rules. Those are erogenous zones. Aries/Head, face- any attention towards the forehead or even stroking the hair. Taurus-neck. Gemini-hands and arms. Cancer-breasts/chest. Leo-back. Virgo-stomach. Libra-small of the back, buttocks. Scorpio-genitals or you can just bring up sex and they'll be down lol. Sagittarius-thighs and hips. Capricorn- Knees. Aquarius-ankles. Pisces-feet, and yes play with those toes massage those feet with them. But that's just my take. I have to say that during dating/courtship I don't talk about sex bc in my experiences, the playful talk tends to become serious is laying the groundwork for expectations. When she has failed to follow through on her word, I'm immediately disappointed and will eventually lose interest sexually and then in every other aspect of the relationship . I know that's petty but I'd rather learn than speak on it. Once we become sexually involved then I'm open to all sexual discussions. |
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Post by lexxrey on Dec 8, 2015 15:33:45 GMT -8
86too4ever I like that concept. It's true as soon as sex discussions come up expectations are made and you go into it expecting it to be a certain way and it kind of takes away from appreciating the original experience. Good point.
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Post by 86too4ever on Dec 8, 2015 19:07:04 GMT -8
86too4ever I like that concept. It's true as soon as sex discussions come up expectations are made and you go into it expecting it to be a certain way and it kind of takes away from appreciating the original experience. Good point. Gracias |
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Post by akwynter on Dec 15, 2015 11:12:01 GMT -8
I believe that eventually it's going to go downhill.
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Post by papasankofa on Jan 9, 2016 21:50:29 GMT -8
If you know exactly what it is you need then yes. If not, enjoy the ride, you may learn something new. Personally, I require reciprocated sensualism. I know many women are all about action and position. My preference are for those who are more into the innate intimacy of contact. The spark that exists between us. Not everyone can feel that internal electricity. As Bob Marley says "Some people feel the rain, others just get wet."
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