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Post by santerio on Sept 6, 2015 14:43:00 GMT -8
Hello. I just created an account four minutes ago and well I got something to say already. As a young man who is single I notice a lot of relationship problems are the same. The person will come into your life, play games, leave, slander, then comeback like nothing ain't happen(yes I meant to say it like that.I'm country but college educated. I'd rather be country tonight.) and the process starts over and over again. Why is that? Its not you! Its society. Please post this quote everywhere: "Disconnection is easier than devotion." You use less energy to be disconnected than you do to be connected. Think like a cellphone. A cellphone not on the charger is not draining energy from the source however when a cellphone is connected to a power outlet, it will use energy and be dependent on that source. Simply put,IT IS MORE EASY AND ENERGY EFFICIENT FOR A PERSON TO BE DISCONNECTED AND FREE THAN IT IS TO BE CONNECTED AND RESTRAINED. A cell phone is restrained when it is on the charger right? Correct. However, if a cell phone is not on a charger than its free right? correct. Devotion equals patience and commitment and people lack that in today's society. They will rather be disconnected so they can worry about themselves and not be restrained to a wall, than to be devoted to another person and themselves. AND IT MAKE SENSE! WE ARE IN THE "TAKE CARE OF YOU ALWAYS ERA."However, what happens when you take the cell phone off the charger? The battery begins to die. The reason why people keep coming back is because you charged them all the way. ALL THE WAY. They got to 100% and don't need you, then they disconnect themselves and go their free way. They get down to 15% after a couple of days or weeks depending on the person and then the brain says "YOU ARE AT A 15% WARNING. GO BACK AND GET CHARGED AGAIN." AND THEY COME BACK KNOWING THAT YOU WILL ALWAYS CHARGE THEM UP TO 100%. SOME OF YALL ARE WALL OUTLETS. YOU GIVe OUT ENERGY UNTIL THEY FULL THEN ALLOW THEM TO DISCONNECT.With you, THEY CAN GET ALL THEY NEED TO BE CHARGED UP WITHOUT A PERMANENT CONNECTION.(YOU are in a temporary connected relationship.) In today's society, "DISCONNECTION IS EASIER THAN DEVOTION" AM I RIGHT? Comment your opinion.
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Post by ShyaDee on Sept 6, 2015 17:57:40 GMT -8
Simple. Deep. And accurate. Makes a lot of sense
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Post by akanundrum on Sept 6, 2015 18:21:11 GMT -8
WOW!!!! I just used the charger analogy the other day explaining sleep and cell restoration to my daughter! GOOD JOB!!
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Post by awakewhileusleep on Sept 7, 2015 18:55:49 GMT -8
The reason why people keep coming back is because you charged them all the way. ALL THE WAY. They got to 100% and don't need you, then they disconnect themselves and go their free way. They get down to 15% after a couple of days or weeks depending on the person and then the brain says "YOU ARE AT A 15% WARNING. GO BACK AND GET CHARGED AGAIN." AND THEY COME BACK KNOWING THAT YOU WILL ALWAYS CHARGE THEM UP TO 100%. SOME OF YALL ARE WALL OUTLETS. YOU GIVe OUT ENERGY UNTIL THEY FULL THEN ALLOW THEM TO DISCONNECT.With you, THEY CAN GET ALL THEY NEED TO BE CHARGED UP WITHOUT A PERMANENT CONNECTION.(YOU are in a temporary connected relationship.)
Bro, these words were my life for a very long time.. heart too big for its own good. Taught me some lessons, learned alot. I will be quoting you on other social media outlets in the near future..
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Post by mskenya on Sept 10, 2015 18:55:25 GMT -8
You Preaching and teaching
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Post by santerio on Sept 11, 2015 7:29:05 GMT -8
mskenya Just trying to wake the sleeping.
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Post by mskenya on Sept 11, 2015 7:30:05 GMT -8
I appreciate you for that
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Post by konsciousMind on Sept 24, 2015 14:48:01 GMT -8
This is a great analogy! You gave me such insight right now. And it always go back to learning self. Self worth. I appreciated this
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Post by santerio on Sept 27, 2015 16:26:04 GMT -8
konsciousMind Thank you for the comment. It makes me feel good to know I didn't write that long essay for nothing! Truly thanks.
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Post by imperfect_perfection15 on Sept 28, 2015 17:16:26 GMT -8
santerio I believe there are two things to take note of from what you stated: 1 - "They get down to 15% after a couple of days or weeks depending on the person and then the brain says "YOU ARE AT A 15% WARNING. GO BACK AND GET CHARGED AGAIN." AND THEY COME BACK KNOWING THAT YOU WILL ALWAYS CHARGE THEM UP TO 100%." So, if you're the "charger," in your scenario, you can do one of two things... change your role, no longer be 'the charger' (the "cell phone," will always look for a charge, because eventually they'll need one) OR become extremely selective with who you give your energy to (both figurative and literally). Others will treat you how you allow them to treat you. If you continue this cycle of charging, and allowing the "cell phone," to come and go as they please, don't only be upset at the "phone," because YOU are supplying the 'energy' to the relationship. 2 - "SOME OF YALL ARE WALL OUTLETS. YOU give OUT ENERGY UNTIL THEY FULL THEN ALLOW THEM TO DISCONNECT" From my interpretation, to be a wall outlet, one must be immobile; wall outlets don't move, they are consistently in the same place, at the same time. If you're actions and life are predictable, someone who you've only spent a few weeks or months with, will easily be able to predict your actions and in-actions. Being predictable in a relationship, at least at the beginning, isn't exciting. Most people want to be with the "Obama's" in life; the heavy hitters, go-getters, money makers, etc. These individuals are always on the move, making new goals, and striving to achieve them. Their actions and in-actions are rarely predictable because they have some much going on. So, be that person! I'm sure most of you have things on your to-do list you've always wanted to do, so do them! It will make you more interesting anyway, and you'll have more to add to the conversation from the stories you'll create once you actually do whatever it is that you want to do, on the date you're waiting on with Mr./Ms. Right. (-: Good luck my king and queens!
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Post by santerio on Sept 28, 2015 18:27:19 GMT -8
imperfection15 How you broke something down better than me and I wrote it? Got me looking like "Dang, I guess that's what I meant." Lol.!!! You are correct exactly. You CANNOT be upset with a person who is a free spirit who only comes around when they need whatever the world lacks. They will keep doing it if you allow it. (WHICH IS WHY THE OF THE POST IS CALLED CRACKHEAD SPECIAL FOR THOSE WONDERING). I actually never intended for wall outlet to count as an immobile object. I just wanted to use something that had a charge.Amazed at your different perspective. You are right. Immobilization is boring. People are in disconnected relationships because one person is mobile while the other is immobile (Think Forrest Gump and Jenny.) She keeps leaving and he just stayed right there. Some people are not yet done with the world even though you might be. umm umm umm. WOW. THAT'S IT. Your analogy of my analogy got me over here like:
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Post by callmemansa83 on Sept 28, 2015 19:44:24 GMT -8
santerio Thanks you for this post...At first glance I thought to myself I'm not even going to read this I doubt there is any useful information (pertaining to me atleast) in it, but I am happy I did...
From your post I was able to better understand a very very VERY rough (sometimes violent) relationship that started a few years ago in which I'm still involved (emotionally attached) in to some extent... I was the charger and she was the phone... She would come and I would give her my energy then she would leave... Usually for weeks or months because she got banned from my home... A few times... Continuing with the trend that imperfection15 started...
I reflect on this for a moment and I realized I was facing one of two problem when she left...
1. She was leaving without a full charge (which i doubt was the problem) 2. She was leaving overcharged (Which I feel was the problem)
Keeping a device on the charger after it is fully charge will cause harm to its charging system and battery making every charge after less efficient and slowly killing your device... In essence me giving her too much of my energy was killing her slowly... In reality I was giving her a false sense of security which, when it was time for her to bounce, would turn into a battle...
Moral of the story... If your don't mind being that charger (which I didn't) make sure you know your devices charging limit and don't exceed it... basically tell that "beach" what time she has to leave before you even plug into her ... Charge Responsibly...
Final note, we must learn to understand all possible perspectives in every situation...
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Post by santerio on Oct 2, 2015 12:15:07 GMT -8
santerio Thanks you for this post...At first glance I thought to myself I'm not even going to read this I doubt there is any useful information (pertaining to me atleast) in it, but I am happy I did...
From your post I was able to better understand a very very VERY rough (sometimes violent) relationship that started a few years ago in which I'm still involved (emotionally attached) in to some extent... I was the charger and she was the phone... She would come and I would give her my energy then she would leave... Usually for weeks or months because she got banned from my home... A few times... Continuing with the trend that imperfection15 started...
I reflect on this for a moment and I realized I was facing one of two problem when she left...
1. She was leaving without a full charge (which i doubt was the problem) 2. She was leaving overcharged (Which I feel was the problem)
Keeping a device on the charger after it is fully charge will cause harm to its charging system and battery making every charge after less efficient and slowly killing your device... In essence me giving her too much of my energy was killing her slowly... In reality I was giving her a false sense of security which, when it was time for her to bounce, would turn into a battle...
Moral of the story... If your don't mind being that charger (which I didn't) make sure you know your devices charging limit and don't exceed it... basically tell that "beach" what time she has to leave before you even plug into her ... Charge Responsibly...
Final note, we must learn to understand all possible perspectives in every situation...
1) I hate that you started off by saying that you were not going to read it because it was no useful information lol THAT KILLT ME. I was like what.... 2) I'm glad you know why that past relationship did not work out. A lot of people continue to be in horrible relationships because they don't figure out the cycle of destruction. Now you will notice things better. 3)"Tell her what time she has to leave" Lol NOOOOOO!That's funny. You know what I think a successful relationship is? It is not to be a charger and disconnect somebody at a 100%. That kind of makes you a master and also it makes your relationship very computed. Love should be naturally and not necessarily cut someone off when you give to much without receiving. Imagine if our guardians did that when we were growing up? It is best to be both the charger and the phone. You need to be charged up also or YOU WILL GET TIED (Yes, TIED). Humans renew energy daily. Every morning we wake up on 100% or zero and either deplete or build.The point I was trying to make is that people shouldn't won't to be a wall outlet permanently. Charge each other. That's the best way. 4) Charge responsibly . HAAAAAAAAAAA. Life Bro.Life 5) The fact that we having a serious conversation about chargers. >>>>>> My past high school English teacher would be so proud of this metaphorical analysis.
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