#5 How does the crib look?Their crib can tell you a lot about them. Couple crib
identifiers to notice.
Is it clean? If yes, then that means absolutely
nothing! Most black people clean before guests come over because black people know if you have a dirty house people
will smile while they are there then proceed to talk about you once they leave. (Y'all know black people two faced.) Clean houses mean nothing.
Is it dirty? This actually does mean something. Even though a clean crib doesn't. If a person doesn't clean their house for a planned first visit, then you were not valued. If you know somebody important is coming over you will automatically clean up for them right? No such thing as "I work too hard so I didn't have time to clean."
That's a big lie. They had time to invite you and chill with you for two hours didn't they?
I was always taught if your house is in order than your life is in order. Clothes everywhere is not always a sign of a hard worker. It could be a sign of a lazy person who is looking for a maid. It can also be a sign for a person without any order.
There are
certain items that truly can determine if a person is naturally clean or cleaned up just for you.
The microwave- An overlooked item. If the house is spotless check the microwave.(Carry a hot pocket in your purse.) The microwave should also be cleaned to a certain degree if they are already a clean person.(Doesn't have to be spotless.
Couple chili spots are ok.) If their microwave is completely dirty then they just cleaned up for your visit. Sadly, a lot of peoples man crush Mondays and women crush Wednesday's microwaves look like this:
Furniture- This is a no biggie. Most men wait until they get married and let their wives pick the furniture.
Don't count simple furniture as him having bad taste. It could mean he will give his wife some power in the household. If he does have nice furniture ask who
helped him. Maybe mom or sister. If he picked it out himself, believe him. Bad furniture does not equal bad taste but good furniture does equal good taste.
TVS- I notice a lot of girls always mention flat screen tvs when they walk into a man's house as something they notice.
As if that speaks of wealth. All those tvs could be rented or placed on "pawn money rotation" when he needs it. Y'all know y'all do it. Again, material things are
equally a sign of wealth as they are a sign of debt. Closet- Well, you are going to make it to the room anyway! Since the things most people clean end up in the closet, you should be able to tell whether this is false impression. What type of items are in his closet. Is it all name brands? Nothing is wrong with that as long as his house is clean with it. A steady clean house plus name brands can equal a person whos life is on point. We've all seen those Instagram models with dirty rooms. Again priorities! If they are all about the material things and not abstract things such as
self worth, value, cleanliness, order, and organization, don't expect your relationship to have any of those qualities just listed. Seriously.
If you find out the person is just cleaning up for you visits. They are just trying to hook you. They are trying though. However, they are not showing you the real them. To see the real them, keep visiting. After awhile, the house will either get dirtier or remain clean. This will show who they really are because the more comfortable a person is around you,
the more they stop trying to overdue themselves. Also, if a man stops cleaning for your visits, this will let you know that he is officially comfortable around you. If he stops maintaining his house after he's with you then once you guys are in a relationship, you will notice that he will stop doing other things.
Again, how they maintain their crib around you will tell whether they will maintain the relationship at the same standard or fall off once they got you.
