kesco
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Post by kesco on Sept 11, 2015 17:23:07 GMT -8
I have a confession....I have a good amount of female friends. 98% of my female friends I have either had sexual relations with, or have tried to have sex with, or they tried to have sex with me at one point in our history. To be clear, I am not actively having sex with my female friends. Infact many of them are happy and married and have kids. The question is....Is it truly possible to have a completely plutonic, no sexual anything, no history friendship with the opposit sex?
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Post by akanundrum on Sept 11, 2015 18:00:11 GMT -8
If you're very non-attracted to he person
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Post by lexxrey on Sept 11, 2015 20:52:26 GMT -8
If you're very non-attracted to he person I thought the same thing! If the thought of being intimate with this person makes you do a throw up reflex... They qualify. If not, no. |
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kesco
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Post by kesco on Sept 11, 2015 21:34:27 GMT -8
Lol. Now that I think of it, all my female friends are attractive lol. I just don't think its possible to have a friend of the opposit sex purely plutonic from the begining to the present.
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Post by justpeachy on Sept 11, 2015 22:09:52 GMT -8
It's possible. Just because a man is attractive does not give me a pass to sleep with him. It's a mind over matter type thing, just because you can does not mean you should.
For me it's a moral code and about self-control, boundaries should be set. No different than choosing not to skeep with your boss or your friend/ family members ex or doneone who is attached. Otherwise you'll be constantly involved with everyone.
Make a choice to keep a friend with out the benefits and look into why your taking advantage of this sexual relationship.is it convenience for you or are you playing on the woman's emotional state?? Etc.
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alikakaluwa
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Post by alikakaluwa on Sept 12, 2015 0:21:41 GMT -8
Nope...at some point one and/or both is going to like the other. You may never act on it but the desire is there!
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Post by akanundrum on Sept 13, 2015 5:49:43 GMT -8
I think it happens this way: One of us will be attracted - some times both...flirting will take place and during that time we'll discover of we're a good fit. From there we become significant others (which goes up or down) or remain friends and support each other's new relationships.
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Post by morallady on Sept 13, 2015 11:04:22 GMT -8
As sexual beings, sometimes there are thoughts that come to mind when friends with an attractive person. I agree that at some point, someone may develop feelings. When comfortable with another, things may be expressed or said by either party that may steer thinking in another type of direction. Morals are great and the attraction does not help. It's about balancing and respecting what you have along with open communication to check each other's level to see if y'all remain in sync about the friendship and on the same page. If nothing other than their personality strikes you and there is no attractions, you can be the best of confident friends!
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Post by akanundrum on Sept 13, 2015 11:11:40 GMT -8
As sexual beings, sometimes there are thoughts that come to mind when friends with an attractive person. I agree that at some point, someone may develop feelings. When comfortable with another, things may be expressed or said by either party that may steer thinking in another type of direction. Morals are great and the attraction does not help. It's about balancing and respecting what you have along with open communication to check each other's level to see if y'all remain in sync about the friendship and on the same page. If nothing other than their personality strikes you and there is no attractions, you can be the best of confident friends! Especially if you VALUE your firend. You will RESPECT their relationship and never put them in a compromising situation. |
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Post by awakewhileusleep on Sept 18, 2015 18:31:04 GMT -8
its possible, there may be times when your mind wanders.. but you dont have to act on those impulses
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Post by cocatai on Oct 4, 2015 23:02:23 GMT -8
I believe that man and woman can be friends without the benfits. You have to let it be known from the beginning that this is just a friendshipand be straight forward, i was attracted to a this man but i made it clear that i wasnt looking for just somebody too jump in the bed with and he respected that and we have been cool since. I think its all about know yourself and setting boundaries out of the gate on what you wont do .....
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callmemansa83
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Post by callmemansa83 on Oct 5, 2015 5:32:35 GMT -8
I have a good amount of female friends. 98% of my female friends I have either had sexual relations with, or have tried to have sex with, or they tried to have sex with me at one point in our history.
Lately I haven't been thinking about sex so bacc then maybe, but since I've really been working on rising my vibes I think I can have plutonic friendships...
A female "friend" told me she wanted to remain plutonic, but she'd still give it up after a club night... I'll happily accept too =]
I just confused myself...
I think you can though...
It just depends on how well you love yourself...
I went from being monogomous to turning into a hoe...
Now I'm starting to reserve myself again... |
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jayscott
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Post by jayscott on Oct 9, 2015 17:38:05 GMT -8
I've seen one case where this is true. I don't think there is many like it though. So it is possible but not very likely to happen.
From personal experience though, most of my platonic friendships without sexual contact happened because the man is gay so.....*shrug*
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