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Post by lloydwein on Aug 16, 2015 14:05:22 GMT -8
Sex is a very sacred thing that has become mediocre and idolatry today. There's now timetables which leads to worshipping of sex. This is a major problem in UNION in current days Religious houses have given us the illusion that there's just one way to lay with your spouse and that's a very big lie. I'm not a fervent reader of religious books but I haven't seen or heard about a particular description on how to lay with your partner. Now, you see many couples under the guise of religion gradually dying and falling apart due to the lack of one or both parties which leads to cheating You are partners and therefore should be open to negotiation on any and everything and if you can't Innerstand that both of you are in this together, then you are not meant to be with them Now, I get the fact that some people are not easily sexually excited but that doesn't mean you should shut the other person out completely. As facial as you might see it, lack of communication in bed slowly slides into their everyday life, you begin to give them complexes and not just towards others but mostly towards themselves. It's so annoying that some who even PERMIT the sex now have a "when" and "when not" so outlined that there's a mental or worse physical TIMETABLE. This is totally wrong and overtime you begin to look for why you are not connecting which leads to seeking questions outside then to creating a connection with another person then like I said earlier cheating. It's your choice, your life but when in UNION, Innerstand that you're not alone anymore and now your every thought should be for 2 instead of one.
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Post by Dr. Elle on Aug 18, 2015 14:57:22 GMT -8
Very well said!! If you are in a consistent and committed intimate relationship with someone you love you need to be aware that sex should be in consideration of both people's desires and needs. Sex and selfishness should never go together.
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Post by abeautifulmind on Aug 18, 2015 16:41:45 GMT -8
Wonderful Post! I personally had to deal with a sort of timetable when I was married. My husband had a certain time, place, and he had to be in a certain mood in order to be intimate with me. It became more of a chore than a pleasurable, enjoyable time for me. No, it didn't turn me to cheat but I did become distant and eventually no longer wanted it. There was no spontaneity to the intimacy, I always knew when it would happen, how it would happen, and why. It was more of a please him and not us type of situation. We are not divorced because of that but did it help with the decision, yes. I think when you are in a committed relationship or marriage, intimacy should be about pleasing the other. If both parties are aiming to please the other, you both end up satisfied and happy. The connection should be so strong that pleasing the other, pleases you! ~Teeya~
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Post by roaringson on Aug 18, 2015 17:03:31 GMT -8
I'm not near these stages however I hear these stories amongst my newer wedded friends and I know I don't want that when I do meet my queen. So this is great to have some place to air out this issue. Because before I get to this point in my life I want to exercise the idea that life of marriage is difficult but can be and will be the most amazing decision I make. This level of expression being one of many.
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Post by amirinyahya on Aug 18, 2015 20:08:24 GMT -8
My husband and I ARE fervent readers of the scripture and keepers of the Torah and I can say with absolute positivity that the Bible is very specific about sex between a man and wife. U know what it says specifically? DONT DENY YOUR PARTNER SO THAT THEY ARENT VULNERABLE TO TEMPTATION. Yep.
It also says the marriage bed is undefiled so there are very FEW things that aren't allowed - namely, multiple partners, sex during menses, sex during fasting (which it says that the couple should agree on how long the fast will be and "come together" again soon after), bestiality, and adultery (which contrary to church doctrine is when a married person steps outside of the marriage).
There is a scripture where "wisdom" is describing the things that are beyond it's scope of reasoning and one is "the way of a man with his maid (woman)" . We're also reminded in scripture that when we marry we submit our bodies to our spouse (women AND men).
All that to say the spirituality of sex is to enhance the bond of marriage. We take for granted that touch an intimacy are needed in marriage. Many of us have been raised to use our bodies as bartering chips and not give in to a mans needs. It's one of the biggest mistakes a wife (or husband) can make is to alienate their spouse from affection.
We counsel many couples and it's one of the deepest forms of healing on so many levels - even though our society makes us believe it's only skin deep.
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Post by thedonleeboy on Sept 2, 2015 18:55:23 GMT -8
Great ending
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