Post by trueexperience on Sept 27, 2015 4:31:43 GMT -8
There is a common phrase that says, "sink or swim", meaning you either fail or succeed. For the phrase itself denotes an individual perspective, a personal will to rise up from whatever situation and create the best personal outcome. Which is a great thing. But there is something missing from that which is vital. And that is of support. Having those in your corner who support your dreams. Who even when that inner fire may dwindle a bit, they are there to remind us it's still there. They are in your corner. And it may not be a group of many, often it is only a few. It may even be better to have an army of two who are loyal and dedicated than to have thousands who are deceitful or envious. But the point being is one can't swim alone, but one can sink all on their own. And the thing is when you are sinking there will be those watching, just to say "I told you so". But where was that person to offer just a little bit of support. To throw you a life preserver to get you back on float so you can swim again. Now in saying this that doesn't mean we shouldn't hold ourselves accountable for our own faults. But I am speaking of those who are really trying to further themselves. Doing what they have to in order to provide for their families, raise their children, or just to contribute positively to society. But then there is a strain, one person can't carry the load even on broad shoulders, the burden becomes heavy. Often we look towards our relationships and our mates to serve as that anchor, as that support system. And there should be support within a positive relationship. In fact it should be natural to want to do for and help your loved one. It should as well be reciprocated. But as in life there are no guarantees. That's why relationships are of such to be taken seriously, and the choosing of a mate wisely. That mate can be the one who sits back and watch you sink or they can be there to help you swim. If a man loses his job or is having some financial difficulties would his wife be the one to say "What are you going to do" or will she say "You are not alone, We are in this together". Or if a woman is going through some physical or emotional distress, or if she is pregnant, will the man say, "You are on your own", or would he say "I am here for you, what can I do to help you and make you feel comfortable". And this goes for any type of relationship, partnership, or friendship. Make sure you have someone in your corner who will find joy in helping you swim than for those who'd rather see you sink. In the end the lesson is who really genuinely loves you versus those who simply doesn't care. Peace.