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Post by awakewhileusleep on Oct 13, 2015 15:17:35 GMT -8
what do you do when you've made a mistake in the past... but your s/o will not let it go?? is there a time limit for this? should you continue to endure this treatment or is there another answer??
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Post by akanundrum on Oct 13, 2015 15:20:01 GMT -8
Sadly we can't determine others time to heal...like racism right? If you are behaving that way any longer - they're probably just using it as leverage. You'll know when it's enough.
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Post by awakewhileusleep on Oct 13, 2015 17:56:23 GMT -8
seems like all the signs are there,.. i've been getting the same advice from a few different sources, thank you for your thoughts akanundrum1
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Post by ladytee on Oct 15, 2015 18:27:25 GMT -8
I do not believe there is a time limit. Everyone deals with their problems differently. Where it may only take you a week or two to get over something, it may take a year for another.
Communication is so important... to understand if the person is bringing it up out of true hurt feelings, insecurities, fear or on the other hand spite, or vindication would be the grounds on if I should work it out or move on. I can understand having to put in work to rebuild trust, but not if the other person is resistant to working with me.
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Post by ria85 on Oct 19, 2015 15:02:34 GMT -8
There is a time limit... The moment the person who was wronged accepted the apology and decided to stay rather than go. If you accept what someone has done and agree to stay, then you have no right to continue to throw said event in that person's face at every chance. Now, with that said, trust is a horse of a different color. If you said you were playing poker every Wednesday but you were really visiting your jump off, then expect to spend more time at home, or out with your S/O for a while. If your homeboy lied for you, expect to not hang with him for a while. You might even need to cut that friend off if he/she contributed to your wrong doing. Trust is so fragile yet it can hold the weight of one thousand men... It takes a moment to destroy and it may never be restored.
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Post by awakewhileusleep on Oct 23, 2015 12:27:31 GMT -8
true words ria85 i strongly agree.. loved everything you said especially about the part of accepting the apology.
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