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Post by awakewhileusleep on Oct 13, 2015 15:46:07 GMT -8
if your girl keep bringing up the past.. how long would you deal with it, or would u just endure it for the rest of the relationship???
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callmemansa83
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Relationship: Single Not Looking
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Post by callmemansa83 on Oct 13, 2015 16:08:26 GMT -8
If you love her you'll endure it forever...
If she loves you she won't make you...
If she makes you she don't love you...
If she don't love you leave her...
(Speaking Generally)
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Post by awakewhileusleep on Oct 13, 2015 16:17:01 GMT -8
clear cut insight right there bro.. but what if thats the only flaw, if everything else A1 would u still leave??
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callmemansa83
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Post by callmemansa83 on Oct 13, 2015 17:23:56 GMT -8
Yes... I would feel she needs time to get her life together...
I feel that a person can't learn to love themselves until they have nothing but themself to love...
Im not suggesting leaving and pursing a new relationship, if you truly love her you won't...
If she truly loves you she won't move on when you leave her she will focus on fixing her own broken heart...
This is where "If you love something let it go" comes into play...
If she does end up with someone else then it was never ment to be...
Also when I say leave her I don't mean cut her off completely...
Just don't give her the relationship she wants until she gives you the one you want... (drama free)
Put a lot of space in between the two of you, physically and emotionally...
It will be THE trial but if you overcome it your bond will be unbreakable and you...
Power to you awakewhileusleep
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Post by awakewhileusleep on Oct 13, 2015 17:37:05 GMT -8
callmemansa83 you speaking life bro, thanks for sharing your thoughts.. greatly appreciated, peace King!
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callmemansa83
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Post by callmemansa83 on Oct 13, 2015 17:39:08 GMT -8
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Post by thecosmicgod on Oct 14, 2015 0:19:20 GMT -8
I believe that the answer to this lies with the attitudes of both the male and the female. A lot of our Queens have been emotionally neglected, drained, abused and battered. This emotional trauma could have come from many different places including past relationships, friends relationships, a mothers relationships, or even her own relationship with her father. There are also things like music and media that play a role in her perceptual view of relationships as well. I am by no means calling our women weak because truthfully, we have neglected our women for some time and we as men are the same. A man will do something to upset his girl at least once during their relationship. That one thing might be the trigger to cause her to scars to reopen, you never know. I think the most important thing that a man can do for his women is simply be there for her. If you show her what you really want from her, lead her and guide her through the healing process you'll definitely mean more to her in the end and you both will appreciate the relationship more. Especially if everything is A1! A man just has to be honest with himself about what it is he wants. If you really want it, exercise some patience, comfort her and get down to the bottom of what it is that's hurting her. It WILL take some time but if you know that she is where your heart is then just invest yourself into making it last.
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Post by awakewhileusleep on Oct 17, 2015 12:29:35 GMT -8
thank you thecosmicgod we have just read all these comments together and are in agreement with all of you.. really appreciate all the advice, we both need to apply some new effort and tactics to get through this
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