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Post by akanundrum on Aug 17, 2015 17:34:31 GMT -8
It bothers me enormously when I create a post
celebrating the EXTRAORDINARY education and
business achievements of Black women -
only to have them belittled by Black!
I've created post and cited white folks trusted sources:
CNN, and .gov site - prepared to produce the proof - literally
waiting fo rhte at the door like...
but they've actually never shown up.
Just our own Kings who should be the most proud.
and it's always the same rhetoric:
Black women have falling for the education SCAM.
 
Black man...do you realize we are at the BOTTOM
when it comes to gender and race...
do you realize how FAR we've had to come to BEAT
every race of women in college enrollment
AND building businesses?
It's not something that's been given to us...
we've EARNED this.
We NEED your support and your love.
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Post by Dr. Elle on Aug 18, 2015 14:30:22 GMT -8
{Sigh}.... There is so much to be said about this topic.. I really get sad when I think about it too long. Thanks for bringing this up. I have experienced this type of down playing of my accomplishments or just a basic "turning of the head"/non-acknowledgement. It really hurts. Contrary to popular assumptions many successful black women are not looking for a black man to match her resume. Many of us are actually looking for love, adoration, and appreciation. Of course if you are productive, you want someone to be productive in what they do. Somehow some, not all , but some black men have bought into the antiquated notion that if a woman doesn't NEED you financially, she will not stay. This fear is often the reason why it happens so often that a black man will down play or not acknowledge the successes of his woman. Many have evolved from this, however feelings of insecurity can creep into even the most self-assured man's mind given the social stigma of the woman being the bread winner. I am hopeful that we can evolve out of this thinking.
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Post by amirinyahya on Aug 18, 2015 20:25:03 GMT -8
This is definitely a two sided coin BECAUSE none of us have been educated properly about our relevance to each other. When the woman was made "the helpmeet" she was given an EXTRAORDINARY amount of strength and talents. Not to step on the mans toes or intimidate him but to HELP him fulfill his purpose. A woman who understands that will never use her success to make her man feel less. A man who understands that will never undervalue his woman (or any woman) because he understands that her success (coming from a proper perspective) further ensures the success of the nation.
Unfortunately, we gotta remember that we have NOT been educated. For very long, our society has used the black woman's success to make suppressed black men feel as if they're not doing enough when many are trying their best. That's been a form of subtle conditioning.
As hurtful as ALL aspects of our oppression are, it's important that we "get understanding" of each other's condition and the many ways they've used us as tools AGAINST each other so we can work on healing this thing.
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Post by borngod on Aug 24, 2015 14:50:59 GMT -8
In a true union it should not matter. Both should have one aim and one goal. We focus to much on who makes what. Just as a man can make more when you have a good relationship it's still who can WE move to be self sufficient together
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Post by h82lose on Aug 25, 2015 0:46:55 GMT -8
I'd love to meet a down to earth, strong black woman, that does not throw her accomplishments around. Ok, you went to school, got degrees and such. Am I supposed to feel inferior? Makes no sense to me.
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Post by boogie on Aug 25, 2015 20:17:51 GMT -8
Black men & black women feel they are at competition with each other. I've noticed this. It comes back to our failed love for each other as a group. I've seen this thrown around in arguments between black men & women. Black guy says something bad about black women, black woman replies, "Well we're the most educated group out of everybody." Now black men feel some type of way. Now comes the downplaying of black women's accomplishments.
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Post by ahughes1987 on Sept 2, 2015 21:12:26 GMT -8
I'm proud of all you queens who're succeeding in life. It definitely was earned and not given to you. You should never be belittled for it. If I see a black woman with better education credentials than me, I'd just be happy for her. I won't compete with her. It'll just motivate me to catch up. Some black men are scared of a black woman being more successful than them. Maybe they've been in a relationship where the woman had better credentials and threw it in his face, that's understandable. Other than that, there's no reason to be jealous of your woman's success. Be proud of her and let her know how proud you are of her. Men have to understand that we're nothing without our black women. They'll always be stronger.
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Post by akanundrum on Sept 2, 2015 22:33:40 GMT -8
I'm proud of all you queens who're succeeding in life. It definitely was earned and not given to you. You should never be belittled for it. If I see a black woman with better education credentials than me, I'd just be happy for her. I won't compete with her. It'll just motivate me to catch up. Some black men are scared of a black woman being more successful than them. Maybe they've been in a relationship where the woman had better credentials and threw it in his face, that's understandable. Other than that, there's no reason to be jealous of your woman's success. Be proud of her and let her know how proud you are of her. Men have to understand that we're nothing without our black women. They'll always be stronger. Thank you King |
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Post by brenay on Sept 5, 2015 14:38:04 GMT -8
Honestly to some people it is a threat one because it means times are changing for the best, and many people are stuck in there ways and therefore do not want to see progress
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Post by Deleted on Nov 2, 2015 18:33:07 GMT -8
A successful woman is an awesome thing, but success should never create tension as to who is superior and inferior...should never be thrown around
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