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Post by luce on Aug 18, 2015 16:35:12 GMT -8
Why do we depend on this middleman of technology? When you meet someone you ask for their phone number, instead of setting a date, even though a phone number means that a person has continuous access to you. Do you think we should start taking the leap and setting the date upon meeting? Allow a person to prove themselves BEFORE they have your contact?
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Post by 9ethrdchef on Aug 18, 2015 17:02:16 GMT -8
Very well said!
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Post by abeautifulmind on Aug 18, 2015 17:18:58 GMT -8
I completely agree, why wait??? So often men and women are so quick to give their phone number, email, online name to a number of sites to be followed but yet it will be another few weeks if ever you actually go on a date. Why waste each others time? If you meet someone and you want to get to know them better why not ask them out on a date and then if that date goes well maybe you can exchange numbers. By the time you give them your instagram, facebook, twitter, and who knows whatever account information they will have already made a judgement about you before ever getting to know you. The Internet although useful can be just as harmful. I believe in old fashion love, courting, getting to know someone but that type of dating seems to have died a long time ago...
~Teeya~
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Post by amirinyahya on Aug 18, 2015 17:46:41 GMT -8
That's a very interesting concept
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Post by amirinyahya on Aug 18, 2015 17:48:04 GMT -8
abeautifulmind (does "at-ing even work on here?!) anywho, that's a valid point. I don't think courting has died but I do think it's dormant until we resurrect it.
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Post by abeautifulmind on Aug 18, 2015 19:11:58 GMT -8
amirinyahya I'm not sure if it works or not but I thought I would use it to make the person I was talking to aware of it. And you ate absolutely right, we have to resurrect it!
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Post by amirinyahya on Aug 18, 2015 19:36:52 GMT -8
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Post by akanundrum on Aug 18, 2015 19:39:05 GMT -8
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Post by Hotpocket on Aug 18, 2015 21:22:33 GMT -8
luce I agree 1000%. As a woman, I want to be desired, sought after...you know? I think the desensitizing society has gone through has made approaching the opposite sex "casual" or nonchalant. Even so, that if one would suggest a walk in the park or a conversation at a smoothie shop instead of immediately exchanging numbers, you'd be considered too "stuck up" to give your number out. Its a catch 22, IMO. I wish it were more acceptable to learn more about an individual before personal contact. Who knows, you might not like them after conversation!!!!
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Post by meeshuniversoul on Aug 19, 2015 8:06:58 GMT -8
I agree. I met someone on OkCupid back in April and we texted all day, every day until late May, when we met. I think it made what we thought was a relationship into something that was more of a fantasy. We knew a whole lot about each other thru technology rather than actually speaking, or even meeting in person. I wish I didn't share so much about myself thru technology and I wish i had the chance to test myself to see if I wanted to reveal my life to him in person. The texting set us both up for failure... because now, although we are friends, I wish I got to meet him and decide if I wanted him in my life or not.
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Post by dgomez on Aug 19, 2015 17:29:17 GMT -8
I've been dating straight forward. We need to meet/date whatever it is in person within a week or so (given life and work schedule). I think it's important. I don't want to get into a texting talking habit if I can't feel you energy, and I only get that from a decent sit down after the initial meeting. I don't like to waste people's time or string people along so I'm QUICK to meet up! And if you can't...friend zoned until it happens.
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Post by luce on Aug 24, 2015 13:51:17 GMT -8
Great feedback! It is nice to know that it is not just me!
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Post by luce on Aug 24, 2015 13:54:02 GMT -8
@hotpocket do you really want the kind of guy who will call you stuck up for wanting to try'someone out' before you invite them into your personal space? I think not! You are a queen! You can't have small minded people as your mate. "Stuck up" *tah
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Post by luce on Aug 24, 2015 13:55:10 GMT -8
@dogmez I like that approach and very good point. You need to feel energy!
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Post by eddii on Aug 24, 2015 15:08:14 GMT -8
I never thought of it like that, lots of valid points. To me, I like talking through technology first because it's a safety net, I gauge how you can hold a conversation. I don't want to be sitting across from you and then realize you can't form two words together and now I'm stuck trying to play it off like I'm having a good time. I'm a pretty energetic person and can make any situation lively, but there's a limit no? Is that an asshole move?
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