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Post by christinaelliott83 on Aug 19, 2015 14:16:59 GMT -8
How important is your wallet? You have pics of your ex wife and refuse to let them go. Holding on to good times you say. No pics of me no matter how many I give you. Am I tripping is it not that important, should I be worried. So really how important is a wallet?
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Post by akanundrum on Aug 19, 2015 14:53:25 GMT -8
I sure would be concerned!!!!
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Post by shindanaa on Aug 19, 2015 17:40:20 GMT -8
How important is your wallet? You have pics of your ex wife and refuse to let them go. Holding on to good times you say. No pics of me no matter how many I give you. Am I tripping is it not that important, should I be worried. So really how important is a wallet? I don't think you are tripping. Someone that care about you shouldn't need to be told to give you space in his life. I absolutely would be uneasy about his unwillingness to let go. |
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Post by 17thsoulja on Aug 19, 2015 21:28:42 GMT -8
It depends on the mans personality type . I'm the type to keep a wallet until it falls apart. Old business cards , sticky notes random coupons lol . It got to the point I just wrapped my money in a rubber band to break the hoarding habit. Now I just keep my license cards and bills in a empty Newport soft pack  ? |
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Post by jazzyoptimist on Aug 20, 2015 11:06:41 GMT -8
As much as I love a great memory - I think it should be just that, a memory. If I am in a relationship even more so. Imagine if the shoe were on the other foot. Keeping memorabilia is unnecessary - it just hurts the person you with whom you are trying to build something new.
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Post by amirinyahya on Aug 21, 2015 16:05:58 GMT -8
It sounds like he's hoping to return to "good times". If he was fully committed to you, he would be clearing that space and focusing on creating new good times with you.
He is showing you who he is. Believe him - by action, not word. @christinaelliot83
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Post by Nei on Aug 24, 2015 15:20:46 GMT -8
Although this isn't the topic, I'm confused about why I would know what's in his wallet? Is he pulling things out showing them to me? Am I seeing it lying on the table and snooping?
People have sentimental ties to different things. I understand that. But if those ties become a hindrance in our relationship (or whatever we're doing) we would have to have a serious talk about how and if we're going to move forward.
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Post by frieddaddy on Aug 24, 2015 16:22:16 GMT -8
I keep the wallet clean! Only thing in there is cards and money.
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Post by justpeachy on Aug 24, 2015 22:58:22 GMT -8
The fact that he said the obvious "holding on to good times" is hurtful. How can you tell your new flame your holding on to an ex. It's one thing to think & feel it, (especially after you've given him pics of yourself) but to verbally express it after obvious concern. I'd be concerned. Does he have regrets or feels guilty about the break up? You need to know his reasons for holding on.
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Post by lew on Sept 5, 2015 21:53:14 GMT -8
Not very important to me now other than somewhere to store my ids or bank cards. Growing up however, a wallet was a status symbol. If you owned one it was filled with pictures of your different ladies and if you had it money. no one wanted to have a flat wallet. if he has pics of exs still he might be holding on to some part of his past and replacing the old ones with the ones of you might be seen as a final surrender to said past. |
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Post by Mr_Nice1 on Sept 19, 2015 19:37:33 GMT -8
When I was younger, I kept all types of memorabilia in my wallet. Now I merely keep nessesary items (license, debit card, credit cards). I would suggest explaining how you feel towards the situation and allow him to make the necessary adjustment. However, if you're not supposed to know it's there, working on trust issues may be more important.
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Post by kesco on Sept 20, 2015 7:15:39 GMT -8
Speaking as a man...i have had this exact convo in my past. To be honest i had gotten so used to the pictures in my wallet that it didnt even register as a problem. A problem that was easily fixed.
Then there was the box....this box had all my memories from college. Old yearbooks, little trinkets like keychains, old flyers for homecoming, and many,many photographs. A lot of those photographs were with friends and ex girlfriends. This was a box i kept in the closet with the intention to one day make some kind of display wall in my man cave. As soon as my ex saw the pictures of me with other women, some of which she knew I was seriously involved in. She went ballistic. What was a simple collection of memories for me, was a smoking gun of me wanting to be with one of my exes again to her. It was a mess of an arguement. In retrospect. Of all the women in those photo's, only only one would have ever had a real chance at getting back with me. The crazy thing is.....I think she knew exactly that but couldn't communicate it.
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