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Post by akanundrum on Aug 23, 2015 6:04:50 GMT -8
 Thanks to the internet, we're no longer limited to relationships based on proximity...instead of having the limited options you city provides, you have a plethora of people all over the world to choose from. The obvious downside is distance...or is it? As a ex Navy wife, I know all to well what it's like to be worlds apart with limited communication. One facet of that I grew to respect was, actually getting to MISS someone. When you're time/communication is limited...you appreciate the persons presence more. What pros and cons have you experienced in a LDR? |
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Post by Nei on Aug 24, 2015 14:58:14 GMT -8
For me, the pros were finding out if the feelings were actually real. If two people are willing to put in the effort, and it DOES take effort, to put in the work to successfully maintain a LDR, it HAS to be real.
The cons were of course the distance, missing each other more and more as time passed, phone tag, and at some point that slow feeling of growing apart.
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Post by lexxrey on Aug 24, 2015 21:43:36 GMT -8
For me, the pros were: intense connection, longing for this person, grand gestures to be able to be together, excitement in the adventure, and everyday anticipation for the next time you get to see each other.
Cons: Distance.. of course. Not being able to learn someones behaviors on a daily basis, it's a great investment of time and money, more ideal expectations of what it will be like when you're actually together that can lead to disappointment, and a huge let down if it doesn't work out since there was a lot of effort being made.
I think people come into your life for a purpose so I have no regrets, just lessons learned.
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Post by naturallyqte on Aug 24, 2015 21:51:59 GMT -8
Pros: Those moments when you finally get together and you can feel your whole body get excited (sexually and non sexually).
Cons: It's hard to build trust when there's distance. Phone sex only does so much.
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Post by awakewhileusleep on Aug 25, 2015 18:48:31 GMT -8
For me, the pros were finding out if the feelings were actually real. If two people are willing to put in the effort, and it DOES take effort, to put in the work to successfully maintain a LDR, it HAS to be real. The cons were of course the distance, missing each other more and more as time passed, phone tag, and at some point that slow feeling of growing apart. ....you took the words outta my mouth |
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Post by ladytee on Sept 3, 2015 14:31:49 GMT -8
Pros- With distance you can focus on having effective communication, you can build a legit friendship without physical temptations getting in the way. It gives you an opportunity to travel!
Cons- I feel love the most from quality time spent and physical touch...can't do that long distance. When you meet for the first time where do you pick up? Is it first date status? or do you dive right in? If you do dive in is it from a false sense of security? You FEEL like you know this person so well, but do you really? Even when you are within a close proximity to a love interest you can be fooled...So basically, trust issues. Last, I would say, our minds are capable of conjuring up an ideal scenario or fantasy of what it would be like with that person. Which could cause a big disappointment if reality doesn't meet our expectations...
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Post by akanundrum on Sept 3, 2015 15:19:47 GMT -8
Pros- With distance you can focus on having effective communication, you can build a legit friendship without physical temptations getting in the way. It gives you an opportunity to travel! Cons- I feel love the most from quality time spent and physical touch...can't do that long distance. When you meet for the first time where do you pick up? Is it first date status? or do you dive right in? If you do dive in is it from a false sense of security? You FEEL like you know this person so well, but do you really? Even when you are within a close proximity to a love interest you can be fooled...So basically, trust issues. Last, I would say, our minds are capable of conjuring up an ideal scenario or fantasy of what it would be like with that person. Which could cause a big disappointment if reality doesn't meet our expectations... YEEEES!! The what happens when you FIRST meet the person who knows you so well? Especially when you factor in traveling expenses...I mean, if I pay a few hundred bucks he better put out  |
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Post by brenay on Sept 5, 2015 14:34:38 GMT -8
It's hard because those feelings ate there at first but once you learn to live without each other or working more you soon began to feel the distance and that's when the struggle begans
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blkqueenk
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Post by blkqueenk on Sept 12, 2015 16:05:05 GMT -8
I've had a long distance relationship once upon a time. He was in the navy so he spent months away from home.
Pro: there was always excitement when he came home. Being able to reunite with someone you've been missing is a deep satisfaction.
Con: it felt different when we actually went from being in an LDR into a Relationship. The spark fizzled out and I soon realized he would be better off as my friend.
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kesco
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Relationship: Single Not Looking
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Post by kesco on Sept 12, 2015 16:21:00 GMT -8
Trust is by far the biggest issue followed by not being able to be with that person when you actually want. It can be a rollercoaster of emotions. Social media makes it that much harder, especially if they are popular and attractive.
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