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Post by luce on Aug 24, 2015 17:02:43 GMT -8
Queens, if you want to be successful in finding a King, you must first realize who you are and how you want to grow. This is very important that you analysis yourself first, establish your flaws, change them or make them known. Don't cheat someone of the best of who you are by not giving yourself time to be in love and get to know you. When is the last time you enjoyed your own company? How often do you take time to figure out what you want and how to get it? Time to be quiet? Should it be more frequent?
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Post by akanundrum on Aug 24, 2015 18:17:23 GMT -8
Wait, I had to look at your description because you're dropping KNOWLEDGE! I forgot you were an instructor! TEACH!
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Post by queenali on Aug 24, 2015 18:17:13 GMT -8
I think time alone is very important and it should definitely be more frequent (especially considering all the time we put into our jobs and other relationships). Not just time alone watching Netflix or reading a book, I'm talking about serious time to reflect and spend quality time with yourself. Every single day, without fail, I write in a journal and really get in touch with myself. I do obviously spend time just relaxing alone too (Netflix, etc.). I think this is so important. I know there was a time in my life where I wanted to be in a relationship, but I didn't even know who I was and what I really could offer someone. A while ago I read something along the lines of, "stop trying to find the right person. Focus on being the right person." and that really stuck with me. I have been single for over a year and I have learned to really love myself and appreciate who I am and everything I can offer a mate on the same page as me. I'm not necessary seeking anyone out, but I'm open to possibilities of something longterm and healthy. That can only be possible because of the foundation I have built with myself and way that I have learned to love myself. Tangent over lol.
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Post by amirinyahya on Aug 24, 2015 21:02:25 GMT -8
This is SO important and we go in depth in our course about self analysis. One thing we take for granted is that by NOT embracing our flaws, we rob our significant others of THEIR growth.
My husband has flaws that, if we hadn't faced them together, parts of me would've never grown.
We work so hard to be perfect, to be what we see on TV, or to live up to unrealistic standards that we forget that we are perfect matches for the person we SHOULD be with. Our flaws and all will match so that we can help each other grow into better people.
This is such an important topic for men AND women!
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Post by ladytee on Sept 4, 2015 9:31:29 GMT -8
Being a single parent, I did not find a lot of time that I could dedicate to just myself on a consistent basis... I kind of had to steal a moment here and there. However, when I do take that time out, I know I need to focus on grounding myself. I'm always in my head, thinking, over thinking, daydreaming, running with my thoughts, just go go go all the time. By the end of the day I am mentally exhausted! So lately before bed I do a few yoga poses, meditate for a few minutes, shower and then go to bed. It has been working for me, helping me to unwind and give my brain a moment of peace and silence. When I meditate I try to work on my root chakra, because I need the grounding and sense of security. I realized more recently that I tried to seek that out in men, and I sometimes stuck around in situations I probably shouldn't have because I felt I needed that from him. I have a problem with that though, I don't want to NEED anybody! Yes, I definitely need the time more frequently because I enjoy learning to listen to my body, and easing my own mind. I love the progress I have made so far.
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